I know 2020 has been a hellish year for all of us. I’ve heard so many people mentioning the fact that they just can’t wait for it to be 2021 already. I get the meaning behind this statement buthonestly what is a turn of a year going to immediately change? The interesting thing is, this mindset, despite the devastating year is nothing new.
Many of us, I included, find ourselves looking to start fresh. Although fresh starts are mentally helpful; what about if we changed our perspective and focused more on the goals, we set in 2020? How would our lives look if we started the new year pursuing our 2020 goals at a more intense level? Let’s talk about a few misconceptions we need to rid our minds of in order to have a transformational new year.
1.) “The hardest part is starting something.” Wrong. Starting something is easy. It’s a choice THAT day. As simple as picking out a sandwich at subway, starting something new doesn’t take as much courage as make it out to be. Think of all the little things you have started in your life and never finished. The hardest part isn’t starting something, it’s deciding to start it over and over again despite the roadblocks you face in the journey. Resilience and perseverance surrounding the “new” start to the new thing, is what is most difficult. So as 2021 approaches us, what new thing did you start this year that you would like to continue to persevere in?
2.) “New Year, New me.” Wrong again. You don’t get a new identity because the clock struck 12 on the last day of the year. That doesn’t mean you need to hold onto things that are affecting you negatively. A turn of a new year means renewed grace through your failures but perseverance through your trials. You are capable of incredible things despite what you have faced! Failure doesn’t mean you have to wipe your slate clean and plant seed in a different space. Turning a new leaf doesn’t mean you kill the one dream that you have been wanting to plant for so long. Maybe it just means you have pruning to do and maybe 2021 is the space to do so. Search your heart and the things that initially drew you into chase after. Are they still worth chasing?
3.) “The best things in life come easy.” You’ll hear this in regard to relationships whether it’s amicable or romantic. People will tell you to trust your gut and your first impression. Although this can be true in some senses, this is a wrong mindset to have. Finding victory in relationship, business, physical appearance, and health are not always easy. There can be easy aspects and your attitude can be an easy “yes” to pursue it, but the best things in life take time, attention and nurture. What goals are you going to nurture in 2021? What flicker of a flame are you wanting to ignite into a roaring bonfire this year?
Take some time to think about your dreams you’re carrying with you from this year to next. Write down how you want to take them to the next level and what you’re going to do about it. Give yourself ample tries to get it right but keep chasing it! It’s always worth it. Develop the person you’re becoming, don’t erase your canvas; add to the masterpiece!